Friday, April 11, 2008

What would you do?

Let's say you have some friends over and they bring their kids. You have a great time. After they leave you find out that something has been broken (likely by the kids). Do you tell them or suck it up? If you tell them, how?
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8 comments:

Linz said...

Ouch. Hard situation. Are you quite certain it was one of their kids? Is it something that you can be pretty sure that your own kids didn't do? If you can pretty much guarantee it wasn't your kids, I would bring it up to them. Otherwise they may think you're blaming them for something that might not be their fault.

April 11, 2008 at 4:04 PM
highdeekay said...

yeah, my baby is only 11 months and this was on my table. It is my cell phone and it still works but doesn't close well anymore. ugh!

April 11, 2008 at 4:20 PM
Claire said...

I'm the type who wouldn't say anything, BUT if it were my daughter who had broken something... I'd want to be informed so that I could replace the item. I'd hate for it to become a source of tension just because the person was too embarrassed or uncomfortable to say anything.

April 11, 2008 at 4:45 PM
Liz said...

since it's a big ticket item like a cell phone, i'd find a way to ask. since you don't know which kid it was maybe i'd ask everyone if they knew if anything happened to your cell phone to see if anyone saw anything happen and makes it easy on you and fesses up.

April 11, 2008 at 7:32 PM
Linz said...

I like Liz's idea. I don't think you should just not do anything about it. Then you might find yourself feeling kind of bitter towards them. If they don't offer to help out with that or apologize or whatever, well, at least you tried!

April 11, 2008 at 8:54 PM
kristi said...

I think you need to ask yourself what you want done. Do you want these people to replace your broken cell phone? I probably wouldn't want that. How close of friends are they to you? If anything, I would probably do something like Liz suggested and just casually ask if anyone say what happened to your phone. I would be very careful about not pointing the blame at anyone specific.

April 12, 2008 at 4:13 PM
highdeekay said...

Thanks for the responses. My husband's cell phone is up for replacement but works fine so we'll probably get his replaced and I'll use his until mine is up for replacement in Sept. That should work fine and I'm not a grudge-kinda person so it will all be forgotten soon. Thanks again.

April 13, 2008 at 6:58 PM
Tiffany said...

I want to say something but I don't want it to come out wrong. So..I'm going to start by saying that I probably would do what everyone has suggested and just ask if anyone knew what happened/etc. However, this brings up something that I think a lot of us need to think about as moms and that's about the baby-proofing of friends' houses. Most moms when they go to a friend's house just assume that that house is baby proofed (assuming that friend has children) and feel a false sense of security of letting their kids run around while they socialize. Unfortunately, that's not always the case. I went to a playgroup a couple weeks ago and made that assumption and went to check on my daughter (who was behind a counter playing) and discovered that she has opened a drawer full of knives with another little boy and they were pulling them out. Now, I totally don't blame my friend at all for not having baby-proofed that drawer (her son can't reach that high yet)...it was my fault for assuming. So..now I have to remember that wherever I go I can't feel as safe with my daughter as I do in my own house and I need to remember to keep an eye out for her. Along the same lines I need to remember when I have friends over that their kids can probably get into stuff that mine can't and so to try to baby-proof extra specially and hide all my valuable stuff and watch out for their kids..just in case they're not. And I totally don't mean that to say that your cell phone getting broken is your fault...because ultimately its the parents' responsibility to watch their kids..I just think that its something that each of us needs to think about.

April 15, 2008 at 3:29 PM

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