I saw this post on another blog site and thought it was a great controversial topic.
Are You Too Old to Have a Baby? This article poses that very question.
I dunno. I was 24 years old when I had Baby "I". To be honest, I thought I would be lots younger when I had my first. I thought I would be lots younger when I got married too, but I wasn't and I'm really happy with the way things turned out.
It seems like women both in the church and in general are getting married and starting families when they are a little "older." It worked well for me. I was able to get my degree right before I got married, so I had that checked off of my "Things To Do" list.
What do you think? What's the "perfect" age?
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I really dont' know if there is a perfect age. I am one that got married young and in turn had a baby when I was only 20 (almost 21) which was what we choose to do. I think it is a matter of what works best for said person. I am really happy with my life. At 25 I already have 3 kids, but if I had gotten married later and had kids later I would like to believe that I would still have been a happy person. I just think that I would have had different accomplisments. Like you said, I would like to believe that I too would have gotten my degree (At least I hope I would have :))
I have something else that is running through my mind. We still don't know exactly how many kids we want, I always say I will see how I handle things. But if we decide that we only want 4 kids I can't imagine being done having kids by 28 years old. Sorry if i am not staying on topic. I do know, that I don't want to still be having kids at 40. Thanks for the topic, it was a good one :)
I was 26 when I had Megan and i too thought I'd be a little younger. My husband and I want to be done by the time I'm around 35. I have a younger brother with autism who was my Mom's 40 baby and I don't think it's coincidence that he was the one with autism. So we have a different time crunch. We want a few kids but have less than ten years left so we are always trying to figure out how to fit it in, how far to space....it's a lot to think about!
I know lots of girls who were married and able to start families young (19 - early 20's). I think it's awesome! More time to play and spend time with their husbands when they get older and are more established.
I think people put too much value on numbers and age. There are pros and cons to both sides (marrying/bearing children young vs. marrying/bearing children less young). Each of us has a different path to get where we are going and that shapes who we are. It is the destination that matters, not the path.
I have learned that and I should pay better attention to what Heavenly Father wants me to do instead of what others are thinking or doing. Regardless of all my planning, it seems things work out best when I put my life in the Lord's hands. To me, it doesn't matter if I am not done having kids until I'm 45, if they are 3 years apart instead of 2, or if I have more or fewer kids than I'd planned.
It makes me think of that quote from Sister Hinckley - where she shows up at the pearly gates all dirty and sticky. It ends with, "I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived." Age doesn't have anything to do with that.
I love it Amanda! Thanks for your comment. Always very insightful.
I had a baby when I was almost 23 and I had been married for four years. I think that I got married and had a baby WAY too young. The second that baby came out I knew there was so much more I wanted to do before I had to take care of this kid.
Instead of regretting it I chose to make it work and incorporate my kids into MY life, and not cater to THEM. I did not put my life on hold, I kept going, and 5 years later, it is working out well.
I have two. I cannot imagine 3 at this point. What a challenge.
As much as I wanted to be done with having kids at 30 (so that I can retire at a realistic age), I will try to be a open-minded to more, but at this point....not so sure.
I think I get frustrated when I hear stuff like this. I think our culture has unspoken things where if you don't do this or that by a certain age you are an outcast and you end up feeling in a rush to do something...maybe it's just Utah, but I really don't like it. I don't think there is any perfect age for anything in life. It just happens as it's supposed to. I quite frankly and very glad my life hasn't gone as I have expected it to--it would be very monotanous that way. It's the bumps and jolts of our life train that make it exciting. And I think we learn the most when we grow from things that are aren't always on our own timing.
I appreciate all these opinions and perspectives! I agree-that even the best-laid plans go awry. I think that the key is making sure that you're doing what's right for you and your family and what the Lord wants for your family. I know that seems like a no-brainer but I think it's harder than it sounds!
What a great thread of conversation. I've learned life can't be planned out. Some people can plan their pregnancies, some people can't plan their pregnancies, some people cannot get pregnant. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the perfect mate, sometimes it doesn't take awhile. I've been trying to learn to surrender to Heavenly Father's plan for me and doing my best to not compare myself to others and what they've done by a certain age or something like that. Great thoughts everyone.
I really enjoyed these thoughts. I agree that there is no right or wrong answer, and the key is to be happy with however your life has turned out. I was 21 when I got married and almost 24 when Skyler was born. It's interesting how in the LDS culture that's pretty typical and maybe even on the older side. But in general society, I got comments all the time about how young I was! Overall, I'm thrilled with the way things have turned out, and being a Mom is the best thing that's ever happened to me. But there are still definitely those panicked moments of "Oh crap...things are never going to be the same again!" I think if you have kids young, you have to be grateful that you'll be a young hip grandma, and enjoy retirement! And if you wait awhile to have kids, you can enjoy life now, and do things you've always wanted to do!
Great post. I think that the lord has our destiny planned for us and whatever happens is supposed to happen, as long as we are doing what we are supposed to be doing. And we need to not think "what if" or "if I only".... We need to accept the way things are and live one day at a time. An Enjoy life! Something that I need to work on more :)
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